Things You Should Know About Marriage

By

The Man Who Saw God Face To Face

Rapahel Okechukwu Nweze

The Need For Enlightenment

The general ignorance of the facts listed below have led so many Christians, believers and born agains to the places that saints loathe to step into: idols and shrines, marine priests and priestess, demonic kingdoms and cultic posts.

Therefore, it is necessary that you should know about the facts and teach the same to your children when they come of age, when they become maturity.

1. When people encounter problems and delays in marriage and child-bearing, they do not know what to do.

2. Instead of taking simple steps to solutions, they go to the pagans, native doctors, idols, shrines, mermaids, 419ners and fraudsters.

3. Also, matters that should be readily treated and settled turn into lasting problems.

4. Frequent marriage failures and family crisis turn everyday life into prisons and sufferings.

5. Even those who go to the nurses in confidence, thinking that they are being smart and saintly, do not know that many nurses and nursing schools get their drugs, knowledge and skills from the native doctors.

6. Problems make people to spend their hard earned money on a matter that should have been simply and easily treated at home.

7. Your child was given to you to train. But, it is regrettable that parents do not teach the young girls and grown up boys the things they should know, in order to live a happy and trouble-free married life.

8. So many parents do not know the thing that they should know, and those of them that know, keep on hiding the facts and skills from their children, especially the youths.

9. It is your duty to make your child your best friend. You do this by happily answering his or her questions.

10. If you refuse to answer the questions or threaten the child for asking questions, the child will gradually lose confidence in you.

11. That is the time he or she starts looking outside for solutions and explanations.

12. It does not benefit anybody when people behave as if there are no issues at hand, whereas so many things are going wrong.

13. In most cases, it is the woman that suffer all kinds of maltreatment, abuses and curses, which are unnecessary.

14. Etc.

Your Duty

When your child comes of age, when he or she becomes mature, it is your duty to start teaching him about parental roles, about marriage. Do so happily, and the child will always turn to you whenever he meets baffling situations outside the family.

Using lies, threats and cover ups to bring up children will only make them to hide their feelings and problems from you.

If you are such a parent that always uses the cane and rebuke, your children will hide so many things from you, without your knowing it.

You should teach them about the dangers of sex outside marriage and problems of pre-marital sex.

At the same time, you should teach them the problems in marriage and the solutions to such problems.

Sample Cases

Below are some of the cases being encountered during counselling and consultations:

1. a man comes with his wife to your office, to tell you that he is set to divorce his wife, because the wife does not want to sleep with him.

2. Another comes to tell you that he does not have any feeling when he is sleeping with his wife.

3. So many wives worsen the problem of infertility by not cooking the right types of foods.

4. In one marriage, the couple do not even how to bear children. For so many years, they were childless, until the mother in-law intervened by asking questions and by telling them to sleep together.

5. A man comes to tell you that his wife does not respond to him when he touches the wife, because he does not know how to turn his wife on.

6. Likewise, a woman comes to complain that his husband does not sleep with her, because she does not know how to turn her husband on.

7. So many youths continue to have guilty feelings or sense of sin for so many years into their marriage, because the pastors and parents are always saying that fornication is a sin.

8. Truly, fornication and adultery are sins, but that should not becloud the freedom and knowledge that youths should have about sex.

9. God does not condemn sex. Only that couples should abide by the rites of holiness.

10. On several occasions, young men have taken their pregnant wives to hospital for child delivery, without proving all the necessary materials that shall be used in the hospital for safe delivery.

11. You should know that most of the married people today are marriage illiterate.

12. The men are quick to complain that the woman has not become pregnant, when the man does not know about the right types of food that a pregnant woman should eat. And in many cases, the men do not even provide food at all, even when the woman has no means of livelihood and has no one to provide for her. That is why so many children die at birth or die prematurely.

13. In a very bad case, a pregnant girl did not know how to sit down, when somebody is pregnant. She was always bending forward, in order to hide her stomach, until somebody corrected her. By the time she delivered, it was twins. But, only one child developed to maturity, while the other was deformed and undeveloped.

14. In some cases, young men do not know the types of food that a woman should be eating after child delivery. They keep on providing the wrong types of foods or even those foods that cause health problems.

Causes Of Infertility

1. Malnutrition or poor feeding. Generally, people are not eating enough, because people do not know how to eat. That is why every girl should study Homec, Food and Nutrition or Health and Medicine.

2. Overlabour, especially by the men.

3. Spiritual blockage, bondage or hindrance.

4. Ancestral curses and abominations.

5. Frequent eating of fried foods, like stew, etc.

6. Too much eating of sugary foods and materials.

7. Attack by marine spirits, witches and wicked people.

8. Curses from quarrels, misunderstandings, baiting, etc.

9. Etc.

Foods That Facilitate Fertility

1. Egg.

2. Avocado Pears (Ube oyibo).

3. Unripe Plantain.

4. Red Wine.

5. Cashew nuts and leaves.

6. Honey.

7. Garlic.

8. Ginger.

9. Banana.

10. Almond.

11. Chocolate.

12. Water Melon.

13. Pumpkin Seed.

14. Groundnut.

15. Boom lime cordial (lime or lemon).

16. Bitter kola (aku ilu).

17. Etc.

Everyday Facts

1. Observation shows that people do not eat the above foods in sufficient quantity. That is why the problem of infertility is very rampant and widespread.

2. It is the above fruits, herbs and foods that native doctors mix into traditional medicine, which they give to people seeking for the fruits of the womb. By then, the native doctors and marine priests have added powers of darkness into the medicines.

3. Ministers who have healing call have many duties to perform for the good of humanity.

4. There is need for spiritual research and inquiry for the solutions to problems.

5. Also, spiritual research is needed for the provisions of the essential things that children of God, the absence of which things make them patronize or use demonic materials, like weaveons, attachments, finger nail paints, etc.

6. Praying and fasting alone are not enough to solve several health problems, which people have.

Compulsory

The following are not allowed by God, and should not be allowed in public places by the society or government:

1. Sex in public places.

2. Romance in public places.

3. Making such advances in public.

4. Even joking or dramatising such things in public gatherings, because doing so corrupts the children and youths who are not yet ready for marriage.

5. Display of sexy, romantic or pornographic pictures, films and videos.

6. Wearing of minis, short gowns and short skirts.

7. Wearing of skimpy or daring clothes.

8. Wearing of baggy or saggy trousers, knickers and shorts.

9. Wearing of transparent dresses.

10. Wearing dresses that makes a person naked, half-naked or dresses that suggest nakedness.

11. Etc.

Be Warned!

All the above mentioned things are not allowed in the churches and holy places.

Disadvantages Of Fornication And Adultery

1. Spiritual downfall, which shall take many years to build up again.

2. Contacting diseases and infections like HIV-AIDS.

3. Stopping one’s education to take care of babies.

4. The problem of unpreparedness in handling babies.

5. The problem of inexperience in handling family matters. In one case, a girl cannot stay alone in the house at night. Each time the husband gets work to do outside town, the girl will keep on calling the husband to return home, because she is afraid of sleeping alone.

6. Lack of maturity needed for handling marriage crisis.

7. Hardship and sufferings, because the girl may not have certificate, skill or trade to cater for herself and child.

8. The boy involved may deny the girl or run away. This has happened several times.

9. The relations of the boy involved may not allow the girl into their family.

10. The boy’s family may reject the girl and child.

11. The boy’s family may take the child from the girl, and reject the girl mother. This too has happened several times.

12. Today, so many yahoo boys are misleading girls, and kidnap the girls for ritual sacrifice, for making money or for sale into slavery.

13. Trending on the social networks now are cases of so many girls who have become mad, after being dropped by boys in cars.

14. Etc.